As a fresh graduate from a grammar school, I discovered Robert Kiyosaki’s book called Retire Young Retire Rich in my dad’s bookcase. I didn’t really care about the content. What was fascinating me was the title. Yes. This was exactly what I pictured.
My plan wasn’t to become a slave of the system right after graduating and wait another forty years until I finally have time. The title got under my skin. I told myself that I could make it until I was thirty :D. Our class pre-graduation motto was “The journey has been long and rough… Hope we can make it!?” I didn’t have a clue back then how rough it was going to be :)
My Beach Business book is about my journey and you can read a part of it in my free eBook From A Stressed Out Mother To A Beach Entrepreneur. But what I want to talk about today is:
I always used to get touched by stories, that pointed out how people on their deathbed never regretted what they had experienced, but they regretted all that they hadn’t done, hadn’t managed. A few years ago I stopped only listen to this and I decided to start living it. Not to wait until “One day” but go and fulfil my dreams. Everyday. Big and small ones.
I have always had different little dreams since I was small, but also a bunch of big ones. And I have gradually fulfilled them all in the past four years. To live in Spain for several months, spend winters in the tropical destinations, go hiking in the Himalayas, to be the best mommy, to have a wonderful relationship, to write a book, to experience a success, to earn a million.
But suddenly, there was a moment (this was a few weeks ago) when I realised
Moreover, I kept saying for a few weeks, that once the eight-week Beach Business course ended, I was going to have a total break for several months, I was going to do absolutely NOTHING.
And then there was the moment when I should start doing NOTHING.
To stop working and just be. And I really felt like I was retired. :D
I was solidly depressed for a few days. I know you may be clutching your head and saying to yourself that I can’t be serious right now!!! I have time for myself, I don’t have to do anything and I am depressed? You must be joking!
For a few days, I really felt like the only option was to set a new goal, a new dream and start a new marathon of a treasure hunt. But I already knew that a fulfilled dream wouldn’t bring one a lasting happiness. But on the other hand, an unfulfilled dream brings a feeling of vanity. And so we have a duty to our life to fulfil our dreams.
And so I decided to give myself a day when I wouldn’t do ANYTHING and I was going to just sit and test, what would happen when I allowed myself to do NOTHING. To discover what was hiding behind this point when one fulfils all dreams. Do we really have to constantly keep chasing something? Do we really need to push forward all the time? Do we need to set other new goals?
And then I got it. The answer was so simple that I had to laugh at myself.
The happiness isn’t hidden in fulfilled dreams. It’s not about if we do something or if we don’t.
The happiness is in the PRESENT. Life is HERE AND NOW.
I was scared that if I fulfilled all my dreams and wishes, there would either be emptiness or I would have to fill my life with a new dream. But suddenly I realised I didn’t have to constantly fill my life with something. It is here and now in the present fulfilled enough itself. But nobody has ever taught me how to live in the present.
And I realised it’s OK to have other dreams and challenges and it doesn’t mean I have to chase them like crazy. Because I don’t doubt anymore I will meet them.
My friend David Kirs once mentioned in one of his videos that the first million in the bank account changes everything. I couldn’t get what he meant back then. Now I understand. By a big fulfilled dream you realise that the happiness doesn’t come from the fulfilled dream. The happiness either is or isn’t. Here and now. Never tomorrow, never in the finale. In the finale, there is a euphory, but when it fades off, your normal life appears back. No great transformation or a change happens. It will always be you and your essence.
So what’s going on is to live a life you want to tell, every day.
To live every day to the fullest, according to your ideas.
To be the person you want to become today.
Not to wait until you have time when you retire…
To live a story you want to tell. NOW.