Time to time I go through days where my energy is down. I feel overworked, tired from children and their requirements, I am grumpy or I have a cold. The inspiration has left and things don’t happen the way I want them to. Quite simply “crappy” days.
When these days happen, we can often feel like every other thing just adds the fuel to the fire. And our feeling of everything being wrong increases and increases.
But when I make a decision that I don’t want to stay in that “crappy” feeling any longer, that I want to get out of it and finally find the power to say to myself: “Enough!”
Then I can get up and go to do something that brings me joy. My mood and energy start to go up very quickly. My thoughts calm down and things don’t seem to look as bad anymore.
Today, I thought about it very intensively, because I had homework.
I had always known, that completing this task can be one of the ways, to find out more about ourselves and our priorities. It’s a task, I give to my students in one of my online courses. But I would have never imagined being given the same task, and especially from one of the most famous icons from the personal development field, Jack Canfield.
I had been preparing for a few day’s workshop with Jack I attended in June (you may know him as a co-author of Chicken Soup for the Soul book or The Secret book). To get to know his students better and to be able to tune into them, he prepared a series of questions and tasks for me and other twenty participants.
When I finished writing and I read them afterward, I realized that those 30 items show quite perfectly who I really am. I decided that if I wanted to get to know somebody in the future, I would need to ask them for a joy list too :).
Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we shared what brings us joy straight away on our first meetings with other people?
Try it, it’s a great look to your heart and soul, to realise what is truly important to you.
One of my friends always tells us on leaving: “Bye! And don’t forget: do what you love and do it as often as you can.” And I think it’s nice to remind ourselves of this. I know, that many people nowadays forget under the huge workload and duties, what they really like, what brings them happiness and joy.
A cup of hot chocolate, cat’s purrs. Your children’s laughter. Moments alone in nature. What actually BRINGS YOU JOY?
Take a piece of paper, give yourself 10 minutes of your time and write your own list. You will see, that doing this will make you smile. Whenever you feel down, take this paper or remember to do one of the things from the list ;).
Before you start reading, I just need to make clear, that there is no priority order, I just wrote them down as they appeared in my mind. :)
A gift from one of my students
If Jack had required to write down more, I wouldn’t have had a problem to put down other things. For example:
I am not. I also have days when it’s raining outside for the whole day, I argue with my partner, my children fight, the fridge is empty and my inspiration has gone and seemingly has no plans to return.
But when this happens, it’s the perfect moment for changing one thing, focusing on a different direction and reality begins to twist.
Our mind is like a garden and only we decide if we plant weeds or flowers.
And there is no need to travel to the other side of the World.
For example, the points 6,14 or 7 from my list can be done very quickly and easily. And point 28 will do the trick either if you watch it from Bali’s beach or from my window in our house in the Czech republic.
The greatest joy is often hidden in small things.